Instant Gratification: A Success Poisoned

instant gratificationThe kind of success we constantly see in media can poison our minds. Golden medals at the Olympics, massive IPOs, scaling a business from five figures to seven figures in a year, wonderful weddings, decisive military victories or losing 100 pounds in five months. All those stories have common themes: they are shiny and fast.

They all fit the dictionary definition of success:

The accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

The above examples may or may not be success, it depends on the cost attached to it. My friend has a friend who was a very “successful” gymnast. She represented her country and won medals when she was young. Nowadays, she cannot sleep, because her body is in pain every single night.

Is business success worth it, if it leads to the end of your marriage? A wonderful wedding means nothing, if the marriage will not last. Was achieving a military victory worth the lives of soldiers? What if the guy who lost 100 pounds in five months gained 200 in the next 12 months?

Poisoned Success

Success is NOT achieving an aim or purpose. Not if the cost was too high. But we don’t see the full equation in media, only the shiny part.

instant gratificationThe faulty definition of success causes us to be skewed toward instant gratification. We want badly those shiny results, and we want them NOW. It’s better to lose 100 pounds in one month than in five, to get your business to six figures in a year, not in three, or to win an Olympic result after a 3-year career, not a 10-year one.

And hey, if you could condense each of the above examples, don’t shy away from doing it!

So we want success, and we want it now.

Which Leads to Frustration

It’s so easy to feel frustrated when you are full of instant gratification mindset.
You try a new diet and get frustrated when you lose “only” 4 pounds in the first week.
You start a business and close it down after two weeks, because customers didn’t knock down your doors.
You start a blog, keep posting for a few weeks and then look at the statistics. Heck! Only you and your mother visited the page.

It goes like that with everything. You cannot stick to a chosen path, because you expect results too soon. You expect them immediately.

Shiny Object Syndrome

And then comes the worst. You cannot stick with one thing long enough to see results, so you look for the next big thing to give you the desired breakthrough. You find it quickly… but again, you cannot persevere long enough to get results. So you seek again for another instantaneous solution.

Your life morphs into this vicious cycle: a shiny object gets your attention, you jump on it with ferocity and dedicate a lot of your energy… for a short time. You get disappointed with your lack of progress, so you shop around for “something better.” A new shiny object draws your attention, you jump on it.
And it goes like this on and on.

Instant Gratification Makes It Worse

Have a look at this chart.

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The Slight Edge chart


If you repeat the cycle of hope-frustration-hope, there is no space in your life to introduce perseverance. However, perseverance is what gets you on an upward curve and keeps you there.

If you keep chasing shiny objects, your life will go in a downward spiral. It’s unavoidable.

Is there a remedy? Yes, absolutely. First, you need to redefine success, then stick to one method for long enough to see the results. Once you get effects, frustration will have a limited access to you, and you will be less prone to pay attention to shiny objects.

How to do that? That’s material for a whole different post.

The Slight Edge Report Year Five

Measuring Personal ProgressThis is my yearly The Slight Edge report. I post such a report every year on the anniversary of reading this awesome book.

The last year of my life was wild. I’ve had a lot of progress as well as a lot of struggle. But it’s a struggle that make us stronger.

Relationships

The leader of my mastermind has a saying: “It’s NOT just a business.”

I’ll start this year’s report with relationships, because it was what affected this year the most.
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The Slight Edge Report: Year Four


This is my yearly The Slight Edge report. I post such a report every year on the anniversary of reading this awesome book.
Living The Slight Edge

Personal finances

On the finance front, income has reduced and expenses have gone up. The progress was visible, however unsatisfied.

Last year I bragged how much I managed to save. Sadly, we spent almost everything on house renovation. Right now, we have only $2,500 in our savings account and most of it is reserved for recurrent payments, like buying coal, paying for curbside collection once per quarter, car repairs and so on.
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Living The Slight Edge

Exactly three years ago I read Jeff Olson’s book, “ The Slight Edge.” It transformed my life. Last year I summarized progress I made in the first two years.
The Slight Edge in action
It’s time to tell the story of the last year.

Finances

It was the area I had the least hopes that it would ever improve. I have never in my life witnessed anyone making a fortune or financial independence. My dad worked very hard his whole life and was constantly on the verge of bankruptcy. Continue reading

The Slight Edge in Action: 2nd Anniversary

I summarized the last two years of my life; it took some word count, so bear with me.

The Slight Edge in action

Exactly 2 years ago, 10th of August 2012 I read The Slight Edge.

Two years ago

Till that point in time I was going nowhere. No surprise, because I had no plans. I was living day by day crossing my fingers and hoping everything will going to be all right. Usually it wasn’t.
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The Accurate Future Reading without Woo-Woo

slight-edge2Here is the method of the accurate future reading. It’s relatively easy and quite reliable.

Even better, you can decide if you like your destiny and adjust your action to change your life’s direction and in the effect – its destination.

You can do it using The Slight Edge philosophy. Take a look at the chart and I’ll explain it.

The author of the book, Jeff Olson, states that your lifestyle is the product of your results which come from actions which eventuates from your attitude which are the effect of your personal philosophy. Only 5% of population achieves success, because only 5% is driven by their values on an everyday actions level.

They embrace the discipline and responsibility for their lives. The rest of us decide to rather do what’s comfortable now and don’t care about the future fallouts. That’s the way of the downward curve, which leads to failure.

Why this idea is revolutionizing and made this book a bestseller? Because success and failure boil down to the simple things you do every day. And they all are small, easy to do and easy not to do.

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