Responsibility and Ruthless Self-Honesty

Ruthless self-honesty

Responsibility and honesty are paired together; they are indivisible. If you don’t know yourself, if you don’t see your deeds and thoughts, you can’t really own them. They are something that happens to you, not what you make happen.

You must consciously acknowledge your thoughts and your actions to take responsibility for them. If you don’t, you act as a kid. If you are a parent, I’m sure you have the experience with “What? That’s not me! That’s my sibling’s fault! It’s him! It’s her!” It seems like exporting the blame is the default children’s behaviour.
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“The twin killers of success are impatience and greed.” — Jim Rohn

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Impatience is a destructive and negative force. You focus on what you can’t get now, and thus distort the present
moment. Instead of being content or working right now, you think about future and have thoughts full of negative emotion. You ask the wrong questions which position you in the wrong direction: “Why not yet?” “How long?“

What good are they? They don’t bring you an inch closer to fulfilling your desire. They just tease you and put you off balance.

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You Are a Success

While reading The Science of Getting Rich this morning I stumbled upon this quote:

“Success in life is becoming what you want to be.”

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I suddenly realized: “Heck, I’m a success!”

I became what I wanted to be. I’m a writer. What is more, I beat the odds. Eighty percent of self‑published authors don’t even earn $1,000 a year. In 2015, there were several different months when I earned over $1,000.

The problem with becoming something, is that it never ends

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Patience

“Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” ― Joyce Meyer

You need enormous patience when you want to turn your life around.

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Each success seems so far away that it’s almost unattainable. Each milestone gives you joy for just a brief moment, because you realize there is a lot of similar milestones ahead.

Continuous effort is needed if you want to succeed on a journey. Your heart will ache for relief, but for a long time any relief seems far beyond the horizon.

Three years ago I began to believe that I could actually achieve something significant. A lot has happened since that time. I’ve bought a house. I sold our apartment. I became a writer.

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How to Write a Personal Mission Statement?

How to write a personal mission statementIt seems to be the single most searched phrase regarding the matter of personal mission statement, not “what is it?”, not “how it works” and not “why it works”.

I suppose it’s because Stephen R. Covey had quite a good way of explaining how it works, what and why in “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.
In contrast, the part about writing your own mission statement wasn’t as brilliant as the rest. His collaborators tried to fill that gap by publishing “How to Develop Your Personal Mission Statement” after his death, but this work is skewed towards “what and why” too.

Of course my opinion is biased, because I also wrote a book about creating your personal mission statement. But other readers share my point of view.

Anyway. I‘ll explain to you in less than 1000 words how to write a personal mission statement. It is easy. It is less about writing, really, than about analyzing yourself.
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The Law of Attraction for Ordinary Mortals

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The Law of Attraction believers are described as dreamers and unrealistic among many other, stronger terms. “It is doing that counts; you can’t just sit on your ass and dream out your future” – rant their critics.

I fully agree. You can’t and it’s doing that counts.

Nonetheless, those arguments are used all too often to ridicule the LoA idea and dismiss it as pure stupidity without an attempt at deepened reflection upon it.

I did that in the past. I considered all of this ‘positive thinking’ and ‘hokey-pokey’ stuff as a nutrient for the weak folks, who are always satisfied with hoping and never doing anything.

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